New York is a city known for its tight living quarters, so understanding the type of roommate you’re living with is crucial. While there are many different types of roommates, there are some stand-outs which can be categorized in more general terms. Through discussions with friends and my own personal experiences, I’ve narrowed it down to four common types you’ll run into in this crazy city!
In a city where more than 600,000 of its citizens are employed as bartenders (according to the Bureau of of Labor), it’s no surprise that many roommates home schedules overlap. In fact, I would say it’s hard to find roommates in the city where that won’t happen. Whether you’re living with a student, someone who works in the service industry, or really anyone who likes to party, you’re bound to have some after hours run ins.
For people in the service industry, their happy hour comes between 1-4AM, which means their dinner and wind down happens even later. Prepare yourself for early morning wake-up calls to pots banging loudly in the kitchen, the microwave beeping, and my personal favorite, “I’ll Be There For You”by The Rembrandts, (but really, who could ever be mad about waking up to Friends?).
In the case of the student, they will most likely keep to themselves, but unless they work all night in the library, they will most likely need the space in the common area to work. Notebooks, textbooks, and an unnecessary amount of highlighters and fun “school” gadgets that your roommate thought would help her study, might flood your dining room table (if you have one) or even the floor, but give them a break. Living in NYC is hard enough. Going to school in NYC is a completely different beast. Just make sure they don’t turn into our next culprit listed…
No matter the situation, it’s important to remember that these schedules are real. While you wake up and start your day, be mindful of their downtime like you hope they are of yours.
Living with hoarders in itself is a difficult feat. Living with hoarders in NYC? It takes a special kind of awareness to navigate that roommate-ship. Not only is the common space you’re living in most likely slightly larger than a walk-in closet, it’s now filled with a bike that hasn’t been ridden since your roommate moved in 9 months ago, a box full of old Pokemon cards, a swivel desk chair (no desk) that houses a pile of ugly, old button-ups and sweaters that your roommate swears he is selling on Ebay, a suitcase with unknown items inside, and piles of school supplies from the two times your roommate decided to go back to school but didn’t finish (see “Night-Owl” above).
I get it, NYC apartments are small. Space is hard to come by and it’s imperative that the shared space discussions happen. Good news, though! If you lease with Bedly, you don’t need to worry about extra furniture (aforementioned swivel chair) filling up your space, because they provide fully furnished units upon move in. However, if your roommate stores their growing rock collection in the common area and has a problem with late-night Amazon Prime shopping, the “talk” might need to happen. Like any conversation desperate to be had between roomies, make sure it’s done when you aren’t heated up about tripping over the bike for the fifth time that day. And if you’re reading this and you are the hoarder? Please, just leave the box of clothes and shoes from middle school that your mom sent to you from Jersey in your room, or better yet, at the Goodwill down the street.
Opposite of the hoarder, the neat-freak is typically hyper organized, extremely clean, and not afraid to be confrontational…even if it’s in a passive manner. I think everyone likes a clean apartment. The problem, though, is that “clean” is such a relative term, each person’s standards are most likely different.
Cleanliness of the apartment is certainly a discussion worth having at the beginning of the roommate-ship, unless you want to wake up to sticky-notes on the cupboards that clearly mark the divide on food, texts from your roommate asking that you neatly put away your shoes you left by the door (don’t they go there?), and a chore chart on the fridge. In NYC, most people are on the go, and in my mind these are unrealistic expectations. Not a single dish left in the sink? What about the fact that I’m running late for work and don’t have the extra minute it takes to scrub the pan I just made my eggs in? Those standards implemented by the “neat-freak” are oftentimes too high for anyone but themselves, and like my friends the hoarders, they may need an empathetic but very real sit down.
The non-confrontational, keeps to themselves, “are they even home?”, roommate. The good news? You don’t need to worry about them being a hoarder, or a neat-freak, or a night-owl. The bad news? Living with people is fun, and while you may become annoyed or upset at the way people live differently than you, it’s one of the best life lessons and learning experiences you can endure. Learning to live WITH someone rather than AROUND someone is priceless. And in a city of 9 million where, oddly enough, real human connection can be hard to come by, your roommate might be that relationship you need at the end of your day or in your morning, the encouraging text when you have a hard meeting with your boss, or that someone to binge watch Game of Thrones with while eating Ray’s pizza. The unfortunate circumstance of having a hermit as your roommate is you miss out on an opportunity to have a genuine, one-of-a-kind, relationship. A relationship which, under other circumstances, might not exist. If this is your roommate, make an effort to get to know them. Invite them to cook dinner, watch a movie, or get brunch together on a Sunday morning.
In New York City finding an apartment is a difficult enough task in itself. Make developing and maintaining those roommate relations priority and let Bedly handle the rest. Not only will they find an apartment for you, you can skip the sketchy Craigslist request and Bedly will match you up with roommates, too! Background checks are required for all Bedly tenants, so you can remove “weird, dangerous, questionable” roommate off your list. And in the off-chance that you have an unresolvable issue with your roomie, transfers to another Bedly unit are available. In a city that is otherwise hostile for moving, Bedly makes it easy so you can focus on the important stuff!
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